Practice Being The Last To Speak
When you listen to people, you make them feel special.
Across the world Nelson Mandela was universally recognised as a great leader.
He was the son of a tribal chief and one day he was asked –
“How did you learn to be a great leader?”
He responded by saying that he would go with his father to tribal meetings and he remembers two things when his father would meet with the elders:
1. They would always sit in a circle.
2. His father was always the last to speak.
You will be told throughout your life that you need to listen. I would say that you need to learn to be the last to speak.
The skill to hold your opinion to yourself until everyone else has spoken does two things:
- It gives everyone else the feeling that they have been heard and that they have contributed.
- You get the benefit of hearing what everyone else has to think before you give your opinion.
The skill is to keep your opinion to yourself.
Sit there, take it all in. The only thing you are allowed to do is to ask great questions so that you understand what they say and why they have the opinion that they have.
In the end you will get your turn.
It sounds easy. It’s not.
Practice being the last to speak.